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Its part of the learning curve to figure out everyone’s role at birth and can be a little overwhelming. For those of you who like to know what’s going on, let me see if I can give you an idea.
Let’s break it down. First of all, you should know that your doctor plans to only be in the room with you for the very last moments of your birth. Like, once they can see the head, they will be with you and stay until the birth of the placenta. Then they are saying, “Congratulations!” and are out the door. It’s not that they don’t care about you, its just that they don’t want to be a disruption. So they do their work and wait to be summoned by the nurses. At the very end, it’s very exciting, you can feel how close you are and the doctor flies in like a burst of light! They catch your beautiful baby and then are gone to let you mask in the glow of one of the sweetest babies you have ever seen!
The nurses are in and out of the room. There’s no way to tell who you will get, and shifts change whether you want them to or not. They are smiling at you while they monitor you and the baby. They do vitals, listening to the babies heart rate and charting everything. If you need ice chips or more pillows, they will be happy to grab them for you. They are so sweet but usually have other moms to help too.
Your partner is your rock. They aren’t leaving your side and are supporting you through every contraction. They are encouraging you, massaging you and sneaking you honey straws. Your partner is a dream until they don’t know what to do anymore. Here’s where the doula comes in.
The doula is the gap filler, the runner, the second support to the partner and laboring mom. It can get tribal during labors, because well, I’ll say it… it hurts! Not only does it hurt but you also have to give in to the sensations (blog post about that here https://dreamcatcherbirth.com/2018/01/01/the-hardest-part-of-birth/). You can get interrupted, lose your flow and start getting anxious, scared, or feeling out of control. The doula is there to know what to say, and what positions to try next. The doula reminds everyone that this is normal, that we can continue to say, “yes” to the process, and that, “this is the feeling of your baby getting closer to meeting you”! She will also do little things like making sure your cup is full, you are emptying your bladder and that your partner doesn’t need anything. She is well educated in birth and can give you a really good idea of where you are in the process and will help you know your options when things come up. She is your constant support, ready to fill all sorts of roles.
Laboring mom, partner and doula are the three constants in the room. While nurses and doctors come in and out, the partner and doula are charged with maintaining a calm and supportive atmosphere, your doula especially is a sponge of things that could affect the couple. Simple questions, comments, opened curtains are no match for her!
Really, with a role for everyone, it works together really nicely. You can even add a photographer in there or best friend who’s only job is to hold your hand and it would be great.
*Refreshed from my prior blog post in August of 2017. It’s too good not to share again.
The cows say it, soooo… Eat Mor Plasinta 😉
Did you see I have options? You can encapsulate, have me prepare raw smoothies for you OR both. The benefits of eating more ‘plasinta’ await you.
I have been curious for a while about my cities c-section, and episiotomy rates for our individual hospitals. Up until the writing of this blog, I have just had the general statistic of Cincinnati hospitals having a 30% cesarean section rate and then each hospitals reputation. Their reputations would come to me through other birth workers and be passed around like a cute baby. I knew I had to share these reputations as a service to the pregnant population of Cincinnati. Anyone utilizing these hospitals should have all the information possible so they can make an informed choice. In this blog, I’ll share the general reputations and the statistics that I have been able to get my hands on. As a warning, take my opinions with a breath. I understand that any woman can have an amazing birth anywhere and any negative comments from me, is only my understanding and is in no way meant to discount your experience. That being said, if you would like to share your experience, please comment below or contact me directly. You can help round me out, LOL.
I know, as much as any birth worker, that the type of delivery a pregnant person has will depend largely on the provider, followed by the characteristics of the support team and finally by the practices of the hospital that is utilized (if she uses one of course). I can think of a provider I would recommend at most of my local hospitals who knows natural birth well and supports women making informed choices. As could be assumed, I highly recommend a laboring parent having a support team that will encourage her labor and delivery preferences. Ideally that will mean a supportive partner and a doula. But the statistics of our local hospitals, which give solid information about their tendencies, was new to me. Finding these statistics was challenging, and will be a work in progress. As I gain more information with my questioning, I will update this post.
Tri-Health Bethesda North Hospital: 10500 Montgomery Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45242
Cesarean Section of first-time mothers giving birth to a single baby, at term, in the head-down position: 17.3%
Episiotomy rate: 4.5% (1.)
Bethesda North, or B. North, like we like to call it, has a pretty good name for itself, especially because this is the hospital that Dr. Daniel Bowen http://thebowencenter.com/ works out of. Bowen is the OBGYN who has a HUGE following of natural birth mommas, and a while back he was so kind as to even work as homebirth clients backup physician. Though he has moved away from being backup, his name is the most commonly mentioned as the go-to-guy for a natural birth. Too bad his office staff makes patients cry, #bekind.
Good Samaritan Hospital of Cincinnati: 375 Dixmyth Ave, Cincinnati, OH 45220
Cesarean Section of first-time mothers giving birth to a single baby, at term, in the head-down position: 23.3%
Episiotomy rate: 4% (1)
Good Sam has a poor reputation for natural birthers but is the place to be if a baby needs intensive help. This hospital, along with only two others has a Level 3 NICU, with the highest level 4, being at Cincinnati Childrens, a few blocks away.
Christ Hospital: 2139 Auburn Ave, Cincinnati, OH 45219
Cesarean Section of first-time mothers giving birth to a single baby, at term, in the head-down position: 27.2%
Episiotomy rate: 9.8% (1) Whoa!!!
Christ Hospital has a poor reputation for natural births, but… then there’s the respected Michelle Zamudio, CNM, who works with two others, Jacqui Martin and Jessie Bertsch. Michelle provides patients with incredible care. Search her on Facebook, with the key words ‘Cincinnati Midwife’ and the praises don’t stop. They are also certified as Bag Free https://www.ohiohospitals.org/ohiobagfree
Mercy Health- Anderson Hospital: 7500 State Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45255
Cesarean Section of first-time mothers giving birth to a single baby, at term, in the head-down position: 24%
The rate of women who pursue a vaginal birth after cesarean section (VBAC): 19%
The rate of women who are successful in their VBAC: 88%
Episiotomy rate: 7%
Epidural rate: 75%
All this information is self-reported to me from the manager of labor and delivery. It has not been assessed for accuracy by a third party.
Mercy Anderson follows the 10 steps for Successful Breastfeeding https://www.unicef.org/newsline/tenstps.htm, is Bag free and has a great reputation for those wanting a natural birth. It is also the home to Dr. Patridge and Dr. Varnau, http://bcwh.org/staff.htm who many homebirthers choose when they need a hospital birth. They are incredibly comfortable with allowing birth to unfold, while simultaneously being up to date on all the latest studies. Dr. Patridge is sure to keep the room laughing in the immediate postpartum, with her slightly crude jokes.
University of Cincinnati Medical Center: 234 Goodman Street Cincinnati, OH 45219
*Refused to answer my questions and does not self report to the public
University of Cincinnati has negative stories attached to its name and I have heard multiple clients say they would NEVER birth there again. They do have redeeming qualities. They have a Level 3 NICU, and are certified Bag Free. They also have a Centering Pregnancy program https://uchealth.com/womens-health/centeringpregnancy/ , which I am totally stoked about. Watch this YouTube video and you’ll see how transformative it can be to women’s prenatal care. https://youtu.be/oixaRbS9Tww .
I know that there must be a lot of pregnant people out there who have been working to take care of others during this holiday season. Now I want to take care of you! Any clients who are due in January or February of 2019 will get 20% off of My Placenta encapsulation services, just for being you. That is a $50 value! Tell you friends.
Thank you for your patience as I work to find information about each of Cincinnatis hospitals c-secton, episiotomy rates and more. I believe in informed choice and am excited to offer Cincinnati’s pregnant population concrete information so they can choose for themselves which hospital is best for them. Stand by and keep a look out in the next week for a totally informative, and important post.
Postpartum mood disorders are increasingly prevalent with, 1 out of 9 women experiencing it. This depression can begin during pregnancy, soon after birth or even six months postpartum. It’s caused from shifting hormones, lack of sleep, and can be compacted with all sorts of risk factors. Trauma during childbirth is one, as well as unplanned pregnancy, history of depression, low income, single parenting, etc. It is a huge issue and one that’s not talked about.
It has been one of my passions since experiencing postpartum depression myself to help other women make a plan. My postpartum plan is newly updated with resources and a visualization. Feel free to reach out for a copy for yourself.
PS: Placenta Encapsulation can help ward off postpartum depression. Its a low cost and high reward tool to try.
If your anything like me then, you may be anxious about the possibility of forgetting something that you should have for after your baby is born. Let me tell you, people WILL be running out to get things that you didn’t think of and, that’s okay. Just remind yourself that the stores will still be open after you have your baby too, so you really dont need to stress all that much.
When I was pregnant with my first child, I didn’t know what I needed to have ready for my baby. I actually sat at my sisters house and wrote down her list of must-haves before a baby to get me started. I wish I could remember what she said now, lol. I guess it has been 8 years! There are a million baby products and it can be really overwhelming. The thing about parenting is that everyone has their own preferences and you’re going to have your own parenting style that will dictate what you “need”. I’ll go ahead and share with you what I would personally have on hand before having a baby.
For your new baby:
- Safe place for you to lay them down, a bed inside your room is ideal for those first few months with lots of clean sheets for it.
- Blankets that are preferably cotton so that they are breathable and won’t irritate the baby’s skin
- Cotton burpcloths
- Some sort of dye and scent-free detergent because baby’s skin is so sensitive and newborn rashes look sad
- Cotton sleep sacks
- Diapers, disposable (newborn and size 1) for the first couple weeks and cloth for after
- Wipes: like lots of wipes. It is the very worst to run out of baby wipes
- Appointment preemptively set for tongue tie revision
- Baby monitor because my house is big and I’m going to need to put the baby down to shower sometimes
As an added bonus, heres my For Mom list!
- Breast pump in case of engorgemeant that cant be relieved with lots of nursing
- Breastmilk bags for freezing
- Big stash of my favorite snacks for next to my bed, including coconut water
- Luxurious nightgowns that are nursing friendly
- Hip earrings to wear
- Encouraging and beautiful quote on the wall to look at while I’m sitting in bed for the first week and a very tidy room
- Fresh flowers
- My tiered approach to combat postpartum depression if it showed its ugly head again (I share this document for free on request)
- Everything set up to have my placenta encapsulated
- Water dispenser in my room with my favorite water bottle
- Pad of paper and pen to write down things that I need or thoughts to share.
- Baby name books ready to go so the baby can have a name by the end of the week
As a extra added bonus heres a list of what to have on hand For the Family Unit
- Books on my phone that are family friendly for when my older children come to hang out with me
- Simple arts and crafts put away that my children can do quietly
- Meal plan and grocery list made for two weeks so my husband can focus on other things, like me and the new baby
- A freezer full of freezermeals
- A list ready of people and what specific things we could ask of them
- Play dates set up for the older children
- Gifts for the older children, from their new sibling (lego set for my son and new baby doll with diaper changing accaccessories for my daughter)
- Lots of discussions beforehand of what we expect of the children and what they could do that would be really helpful
Take it easy momma, and I hope this list finds you happy and wholehearted.
If you’re interested in feeling your own cervix before or during labor, check out this blog post. It will walk you though the when, how, and why of a self check. It’s just another way to take your birth experience in your own hands.
Midwifery linked to better birth outcomes in state-by-state “report card”
Midwife-friendly laws and regulations tend to coincide with lower rates of premature births, cesarean deliveries and newborn deaths, according to a U.S.-wide “report card” that ranks each of the 50 states on the quality of their maternity care.
The first-of-its-kind study found a strong connection between the role of midwives in the health care system – what the researchers call “midwifery integration” – and birth outcomes. States with high midwifery integration, like Washington and Oregon, generally had better results, while states with the least integration, primarily in the Midwest and South, tended to do worse.
As with most population health studies, the statistical association between the role of midwives and birth outcomes doesn’t prove a cause-and-effect relationship. Other factors, especially race…. read on at https://www.med.ubc.ca/midwifery-linked-to-better-birth-outcomes-in-state-by-state-report-card/?fbclid=IwAR1uUUv79adj85mgaCSichkCjGKpTMlYNogWxZXUTQwBqJFrEV0wRxuvkBI
So you want to have a homebirth but dont know where to start? Here a guideline to push you in the right direction.
- Find a midwife (or three) to talk to. Ask all your questions of what it will be like and make sure you voice any big fears you have. Your midwife will be used to talking through these with clients and may have a perspective that you haven’t even considered yet.
Reserve your spot! Pay your deposit for the midwife you want to work with so your spot is held. Midwives have a small number of clients they can take each month and they usually book up far in advance. If you want in, then it makes sense to work fast.
Read through all your paperwork, make sure you understand the expectations your midwife has of you and what you can expect from her. Write down important dates in your calendar.
Stay invested in your care. Continue to eat and drink according to your midwives guidelines. Work to be informed about your care and ask all your questions as they come up.
I hope this is helpful for all you soon-to-be-pursuing-homebirth clients out there!
You probably know that you want to have a calming and relaxed environment for your birth. This is because your cervix is really quite demanding with it’s very own timetable of how quickly it wants to dilate. So bossy! But it only want to dilate in a space that feels safe and for your cervix, you’ll do anything so let’s get started.
You can create this space in lots of different ways and simply being in your own home is an excellent place to start! Bring enough of your own things and you can set up a hospital room to be very cozy too.
I like to think though all five of the senses when preparing a birth space. Let’s start with what you will see. Here is where birth affirmations come in, the low lighting (think lamps and candles),and a clean environment. During a natural birth, your eyes will be closed at least half the time, when they are open they won’t always be focused but every once in awhile, when you are focused, it would be great if see something encouraging and beautiful before you sink in again.
Next let’s do what you smell. Here is the essential oil diffuser, attendants who don’t smell like anything (no BO people!) and bland food. Fresh fruit, cheese and nuts work well. Fresh ice water is a must (okay, well I guess this covers what you will taste too).
How about what you hear. Heres your birth playlists which could be songs or the sound of waves. Voices around you should be soft, calm and encouraging. You could have a carpet on the floor too so the sound of steps is muffled.
Finally is what you will touch. This is where water shines! In the shower, bath or a birth tub all forms of water is soothing and when immersed, the weight of your own body is lighter so you can change positions without the groans.
So when your preparing your birth space, grab an aspect for each of your five senses, make it your own and give your cervix a place to do its thang.
Birth is beautiful and why wouldn’t you want to share it with your very favorite little people? Children can be great additions to a birth. I completely get it. Watching you give birth to their sibling will not only normalize natural birth to your child but could help them fully embrace the new baby. Sometimes moms feel comforted knowing their older children are all right there and taken care of. If they have little jobs to do, children are really helpful at labors. I’ve seen a 4 year old at her moms birth who silently and patiently poured water on her moms back for an hour until her sister was born. A child could also have the job of giving mom drinks of water or making sure music stays on.
Whether or not to have your children present at your homebirth is totally dependent on your relationship with your children and their personalities. It can be really good for all the reasons listed above or really bad. They can also be a big distraction. I’ve seen siblings yelling and running wild, consistently pulling their mom away from her labor. If your child likes to ask a lot of questions, and doesn’t know when to be quiet, you will probably get annoyed with the extra talking. If your child is very sensitive to your emotions, feeling them all with you, then labor may be completely overwhelming to them. If your child is very rambunctious, then they will probably be much happier at a park.
No matter what you choose make provisions for your children. Ensure that someone is with them who you completely trust so you won’t worry. With your children gone make sure the expectations are clear for what you want them to do, how long after the birth you may want them to stay and that it will be harder for you if they come home sugar crazed. With your children present make sure you have someone especially for them, so if the children need to leave at anytime, your partner isn’t pulled away too.
If you still feel confused then you can always play it by ear, but make sure no matter what, you have someone waiting to help with the kids if needed. Even if they are sleeping.
Comment below with great ideas, stories of children at births or questions for me.
A birth is one of those rare experiences in the client’s life where I am fully expecting her to be selfish. This birth is ALL about her.
I talk to every client about who she is thinking about having at her birth. Sometimes that discussion is really easy because she just wants her partner and one friend, who has seen multiple births, will do anything, and they are incredibly comfortable with. Other times it’s a situation where the mom has a whole list of people she’s thinking about. In that case we go through one by one and if she is at all unsure of someone then I ask her this simple question, “Does that person directly benefit YOU by being there?” A doula who you trust will support you well? Yes. A friend who is afraid of natural birth oh, that’s a no. Your mother-in-law whose super grounding to you, why yes! Someone who just wants to see a natural birth oh, sorry that’s a no, there’s plenty of YouTube videos for that. A sister who always knows what to say? Ummm, shes in. A friend or family member who doesn’t know when to be quiet? Sorry you’re out. You get the picture. Think critically and get comfortable with the idea of this being about Y-O-U. At the moment when your body is opening to allow your baby to come through, I promise you won’t regret it!
If you’re a client who is looking at my fees and saying… woah! Then I’ve got an option for you. I don’t believe that I always have to be paid in money, sometimes clients have something even better to offer, a skill or product that I find just as valuable as you do. It’s just the best when I barter and both the client and myself feel like we’re getting the better end of the deal. Let’s see if we can work something out together.
I’ve began offering placenta encapsulation to clients in the greater Cincinnati area 8 years ago, when I was trained by a local home birth midwife. Since then I have undergone a more traditional weekend workshop on placenta encapsulation and I’ve learned tons through my personal experience.
I began by offering the raw method of placenta encapsulation because there’s a belief that none of the potential benefits of the placenta are cooked out. I am now also offering the Chinese traditional method.
I know that there are many reasons that clients might prefer this. Some of which may be because of their religious beliefs, that they want to share their placenta capsules with someone else, or they simply feel safer consuming a placenta that has been steamed. Either way feel free to tell me your preference when you book me. I’m happy to answer any questions you might have!
Here’s to a happier and more whole postpartum season!
I got the question recently from a new mom, asking if insurance covered birth doulas. The short answer is… probably not. If you’re a member of a health sharing company, then there’s a good chance that it would be covered, but under any traditional insurance the answer is no. If you know of one please comment below!
There’s tons of studies out showing how having a birth Doula lowers your chance of Labor interventions/ augmentations, lowers your chance of cesarean section and lowers the need for pain management. I would think that insurance companies would be excited to pay the small fee of a birth doula so they wouldn’t have to pay these much larger fees, but old systems Die Hard.
That all being said I’m happy to provide a payment plan that we both can agree on and I even have a sliding scale for my birth Doula work. If you’re interested in either of those options please just Reach Out.
This question of how much it will be to have a home birth versus Hospital birth is really common and can get a little bit complicated, simply because insurance is complicated. I am in no way a Insurance expert so take this information as my personal experience in my years of doing birth work.
If you don’t have insurance the difference between a hospital birth and home birth cost is huge. Home birth is so much less than a hospital birth! Hospital birth can be anywhere from $15,000 to $50,000 and homebirth is $3,500. This homebirth cost is the cash discount. Hospitals usually have cash discounts as well and some sort of financial assistance for low-income patients and would need to be looked into with the individual hospital.
If you have insurance you won’t have a cost for your birth upfront at a hospital. You would get some sort of bill after your birth and it would depend on what services you required, copay and deductible, how much that bill would be. The more services you required the higher the bill will be. For example a C-section will be much more expensive than a vaginal birth. Epidural will be much more expensive than a natural birth etcetera. Clients with Medicaid usually don’t have a bill after their birth.
If you have insurance and are having a homebirth you will need to pay the cash discount price of $3,500 during your pregnancy. Insurance can be billed after your birth and it’s possible that you may get a reimbursement but it’s not something to be counted on.
As homebirth Midwifery does not have state license in Ohio, if your insurance were to reimburse, it would be as a out-of-network provider. If you would like to call your insurance company to get more information you could ask them what your co-payment percentage would be for an out-of-network birth and how much your deductible is, as well as how much of the deductible you have met for this year. Sometimes billing insurance is worth it in homebirth just to meet your deductible for the year, so that you can go get other services that you might have been waiting on. Like going to the dentist or getting your eyes checked Etc.
Please comment below or send me an email with additional questions or your experience. I know we are all constantly learning.
Hello pregnant folks! I am accepting doula clients as I finish my midwifery training. If your due date is August 2018 or after, reach out to me. Let me help guide you in catching your dream birth.
PS: I’m always accepting placenta encapsulation clients
I am a big fan of water birth, it relaxes clients when nothing else will, can speed up the labor process, allow her movement with less gravity, and is a gentle emergence for the baby. Most of the clients I work with choose to have a birth pool available for their labor.
Here I’m showing a client her side of the placenta. This is the side that was attached to the wall of her uterus, connected to her blood vessels so it could constantly infuse her baby with oxygenated blood. It’s one that after showing her and her family, I later cut, dried and put into capsules. #cincinnatiplacentaencapsulation #cincinnatihomebirth
Almost every client is worried about tearing during the birth of her baby. Tearing is a real and legitimate fear women have and I am glad that I have the experience to address it! When I read blog posts I want writers to GET TO THE POINT so, I’ll go ahead and bullet out a midwives approach to preventing tears during birth now.
1. Slow down drastically at the birth of your babies head.
2. Support your tissues externally as they stretch during birth.
3. Get body work at term to keep you and your baby in an ideal position for birth.
For those of you who want more information about those bullets above I will go into detail now.
1. Slow down drastically at the birth of your babies head:
The whole purpose of this is to allow the vaginal tissues to stretch instead of popping open. (I know some of you just did a involuntary kegel with that word pop! Lol.) When a client reaches term, we discuss that when she feels a burning or stinging sensation during pushing (otherwise known as ‘the ring of fire’), she should communicate that to me. This is the point where the head is crowning, or where the largest portion of the head is at the vaginal opening. Its interesting to me that slowing down at crowning isn’t something that women naturally do. Its much more common for women to feel the intensity of crowning, think to themselves that they can finish the birth real quick and just blast the baby out. This is the point when your support people come in. When I see and hear that a woman is crowning I say a couple things. First, I ask her to take a breath, then open her eyes and tell her it’s time to slow down. Then we lock eyes and take a couple big breaths together. If she can just breathe through a couple contractions, allowing her uterus to push but not putting force behind it, that is usually all the stretching that the tissues need to be tear free!
2. Support your tissues externally as they stretch during birth:
Otherwise known as perineal support. See image below.
When I’m at a birth as a midwife, I use a folded washcloth to support the anus and perinuem as much a possible during every contraction once there is active head movement with pushing. This extra exterior support not only reminds mom to slow down but also holds the skin together to keep tearing from happening. Perineal Support is even more beneficial if the mom is providing it for herself because she can feel exactly where the support is needed, but alas, it’s difficult for her to reach! Providing perineal support can be discussed with your care provider to see what their practice is.
3. Get body work at term to keep you and your baby in an ideal position for birth:
An ideal baby position at birth will keep the diameter of the head the smallest it can be to lessen the likelihood or tearing. This means your babies chin will be well tucked and the babies back is towards your belly, on the left hand side. Body work can align YOU, so the baby is free to move to the best position. I always recommend a deep tissue massage therapist who is comfortable working on pregnant moms for body work.
Notes to know:
There are degrees of tear depth, that go anywhere from just a scratch all the way to through the anus. See the image below:
Questions? Feel free to contact me or comment below.
Yours truly, doing newborn footprints for clients, because those sweet feet will never be the same.
As I move deeper into my journey to become a midwife, I’m struck by the disparities that are faced by women of color in the Cincinnati Area. It is not for socioeconomic reasons like education or their yearly income that makes their statistics so much worse than their white counterparts, it’s the sheer fact that racism is prevalent and far reaching. It causes such undue stress on these women that they are more likely to give birth prematurely, and experience other pregnancy complications that could ultimately result in maternal or infant mortality.
Check out the following for more information. https://www.marchofdimes.org/peristats/tools/reportcard.aspx?frmodrc=1®=39
I am newly impassioned to do what I can to change these statistics. This will include offering the following to women:
-low cost birth doula services for those that are inhibited by the cost of my services
-being available via phone for questions or concerns
The above are my ideas and I understand that I may not be addressing the greater need. If you have ideas about alternatives please contact me. I am open to feedback.
Birth is a big deal and for some it becomes an even bigger deal knowing that other people are going to be looking straight at areas of your body that are the most sacred. I get it! I really do.
Yes… it’s totally true that for most moms they’re going to hit a point in labor when people seeing their body is just not a worry to them anymore. They become more concerned with riding the waves of each contraction and how tight their clothes begin to feel that they just start tearing them off their body. Hint: Anything that has a waistband goes first. ; )
For some moms this just won’t happen. They will stay covered up and that’s fine. As long as they feel comfortable enough to roll with what their body is asking them to do in labor, there is no problem!
What I really want all moms who are struggling with this issue to remember is that this is their birth, no one else’s and they get to decide what they want to wear and when. It’s just that basic. Because #empoweredbirth
If you want to have a modest birth experience I would suggest that you have a few of the following items on hand…
-Nightgowns: ones that you think are beautiful, completly un-constricting, and dedicated to the birth so you won’t be disappointed if they get stained. You will want at least 2 in case one gets wet or dirty. At least knee length is ideal, calf length is better and sleeveless because labor is hard and sweaty work. Oh and I love cotton because it breaths. Make sure it’s not see through because that just defeats the purpose. Check out Latched Momma dresses, they will open easily for nursing and are my absolute favorite!
-Sportsbra: again at least 2 is ideal in case one gets wet. Nursing bras might be great too as it would open easily to do skin to skin with the baby afterwards.
Early labor clothes: these are the clothes that you love, are comfortable and make you feel safe and warm. #loveyourself
I would love to hear what you wore in labor and if you have any additional tips that readers might find helpful!
There is no doubt that you will work hard during a natural birth. We all know it! Any of us who have done it have heard comments like, “I could never do that” and “You are way stronger than I am”. The thing is that those comments aren’t true and I think it gives the wrong idea to New Moms who are considering a natural birth. What really is the hardest part? It’s not that contractions are so incredibly painful, it’s that you have to LET GO. Some of you reading this will know exactly what I mean immediately but I’ll explain for the rest of you.
Letting go is a process that ideally you will begin at the beginning of your pregnancy and continue working on until your birth. It means letting go of expectations of exactly how your birth will go, letting go of fear, and allowing your body, heart, and mind to do exactly what millions of women’s before you have done. Allowing a baby to pass through you and out into the world. That’s the hardest part! Letting go and allowing trust of the process in.
That homebirth is messy is a common thought for individuals who haven’t seen birth or a brand new to it. There’s an idea that fluids shoot out of the mother’s body followed quickly by fluids from the newborn’s, and soon enough there is blood dripping from the ceiling! Or wait… Maybe that was my idea when I first started going to births. I think that partly had to do with my fear that went hand-in-hand with thoughts of birth. The fear that mother’s bleed too much, there’s a whole lot of screaming and that women couldn’t do it without their doctors, preferably male at that. Oh how I’ve changed!
My fear has been replaced with reverence. My work at Birth is done with compassion and in awe of the power that we as women hold to produce and sustain life straight out of our bodies! It is fantastical! Okay I might have just made that word up but it fits perfectly. Can you imagine that one body produces another. So have I seen a mother Hemorrhage and bleed too much… Yes of course. Have I seen her leave little puddles behind her as she walks across the floor, yes of course. Have I seen her water burst, spraying the area around her, yes of course! And guess what? It’s all quickly wiped up. At most we have to use hydrogen peroxide to Bubble it out of the carpets, but I’m telling you it’s like the baby came from a stork by the time we leave. It’s that clean! Except for the fact that Mom is sore and exhausted from some of the hardest work she will ever do.